Forgive and Remember

There was an article in today's paper, about forgiving but not forgetting; about how forgiveness takes time, and how it is sometimes easier said than done. I can second that.
I've never been very good at on-the-spot forgiveness, sometimes it takes me a while (a while being a decade or more in some cases).
I can think of some instances where I'm not quite there yet, but no case where I have just categorically given up.
I used to think that this made me a bad person -- that if only I could forgive more easily I would be better for it.
So the article was reassuring.
I am not alone in my belief that some people do not deserve to be instantly forgiven.