If a tree falls in the woods..

... and there's no one there to hear it, does it still make a noise?

I was reminded of that saying in therapy yesterday.

If I express my anger at someone but they are not there to know that I am doing so, is that enough to let me work through the anger?
Because somehow it doesn't feel like it is enough.

And then I remembered he who left me telling me about someone else who was angry with him.
I have no idea who she was. Is.
He just said she used to phone him up periodically to shout at him, and that it scared him that she was still so angry after so long.
God, how I wish I'd asked more questions!

But I know how she felt.

It's difficult, when you're stuck with all these emotions, and it doesn't feel as if there is anywhere for them to go, because the place where it seems that they belong refuses to accept them.
What are you supposed to do with them?

And I wonder if that is the life pattern for he who left me?
A kind of tessellation of angry people, left behind; never meeting; never overlapping; and him just moving on when real emotions get involved.

Its hard to feel angry with someone and sorry for them at the same time.